I happened upon a website the other day with a post titled “Do Black Men Prefer Dominican…“, after reading it I found myself at a lost for words in all honesty. I’m not sure if the purpose of the post was or is to incite this feeling I have, which is by the way is sadness. The funny thing is that it’s sadness not just for a title but for those who actually participated in the article. The author of the post does not comment but, instead has three gentlemen which, give their respective thoughts of why they rather date Dominican women. These three gentlemen are as followed, an attorney, a photographer, and an engineer. Why specifically Dominican women were chosen, I have no idea except, maybe the fact the many joke around how a Puertorican women will cut you, and as far as Cuban women well I guess Castro has yet to let enough of them out for these gentlemen to pass judgement on then. I’ll stick to just the Caribbean women as these gentlemen dare not wonder into Central and South America.
First let me get into why the post made me sad. While my initial response was more along the lines something extremely expletive, and I soon came to a feeling of sadness. The fact that I am Latino and would be lying if I told you that’s not the picture we paint of our Latina women. I grew up in Queens, New York, my family was about one of four latino family in an all black neighborhood, and as far back as elementary school I remember most of my friends telling me how they love watching channel 41 and 47 which happen to be our local spanish channels. None of them knew what was being said on those channels but one thing was clear if you wanted to see hot sexy women you had to look no further. At eight o’clock the spanish telenovelas would start on both channels, and if I remember correctly Thursdays at around nine or ten would be Los Cacucomicos ( spelling may be off a bit, latinos let me know), which was a spanish comedy show, I guess if I had to compare it with anything it would be like Mad TV, the only difference was the women were alway super hot. Imagine an everyday house wife being played by an extra sexy women who barely fit the dress she wore. The sketches would alway involved a hot girl. So the sadness I felt reading the post on black-men choosing Dominican women is from the fact they we ourselves have help put this stereotype and have subjected our women to this outside view them. Our latina women aren’t just sexy house wives who know how to take care of a man, no they’re not, and yes that’s the why we have portrayed them. I know because, that’s why I enjoyed the telenovleas and the variety show, for the same reason my none latino speaking friends did do only difference at least I knew what was being said.
Second reason why reading that post made me sad is for the gentlemen that actually participated in that. Seriously all they did was show how insecure they really are about themselves, while at the same time painting black women as low life good for nothing, who complains too much for their liking, which is so untrue. After reading the post it just seems like a wanted ad for a cleaning lady. There are other social and cultural aspect I could get into about this subject, but I rather not as this time.
So I ask the gentlemen this, do you agree with these gentlemen and their reasoning? And what would you describe as your ultimate WOMEN, to stand by your side?
Ladies my question for you whether latina, black, or white, and anything in between how do you feel about the description of the perfect women?
Let me know your thoughts!
